***DISCLAIMER*** This is, in no way, a “How To: Succeed at Online Dating”. This post is about tips and tricks on how to remain sane throughout the process of creating and maintaining an online dating profile.
As of 2016 it’s probably more uncommon to find someone who hasn’t tried online dating rather than someone who has. Nonetheless, if you have ever considered making an online dating profile, here are my Top 5 Tips:
1) Make sure this is something YOU want:
Just because dating online was right for your friends doesn’t necessarily mean it’s right for you! If you don’t feel comfortable with the concept or with the idea of creating an online dating profile, DON’T MAKE ONE. This might sound counterintuitive seeing how this is a How To: Deal with Online Dating, but the biggest step is to be comfortable with the entire process. If you feel you’re not ready, don’t force yourself.
2) Choose an online dating website/app that fits your needs:
My dating website of choice is OkCupid. The name itself isn’t the most exciting one (personally it sounds like I’m surrendering to Cupid) but it gets the job done. OkCupid allows you to go into great detail on your profile, but maintains some anonymity by not divulging your name. Besides the information you put on your profile, only your pictures and username show up. After answering some yes and no questions, the website gives you a list of other users in your area that can be ranked on how much of a potential match they are.
If you want to get into online dating, but want to keep it as simple as possible, I’d suggest either Tinder or Coffee Meets Bagel. Both are apps that are
mainly used for more casual dates. Tinder is primarily known as the “hook-up” app, however I’ve known couples that have met through Tinder and have been dating for 3+ years! Coffee Meets Bagel is known as a more “female-friendly” app. And by that they mean it makes it harder for random guys to send you dick pics (no pun intended).
3) Be yourself!
When making your profile remember that you are trying to summarize yourself with a limited amount of words. Sure it’s good to show your best side on an online dating profile, but make sure you don’t lose yourself! Be YOU! There is no one else in the world like YOU! Own it! Be yourself!
This also applies throughout your online dating experience. It’s important to remember that you shouldn’t have to change yourself for someone you barely even know to “like” you!
4) Be cautious:
The entire point of making an online dating profile is so that you can eventually meet up with potential matches. For some people, this is the most exciting part. Personally… it scares the living crap out of me. If my social anxiety wasn’t enough, I also have to worry about my actual physical protection.
Make sure you know this person a little bit before you agree to meet up in person. Get a name and tell a friend where, when, and who you’re meeting with. Personally I prefer meeting the person for the first time during the day and in a public place – any Starbucks would work. Once you actually get to know the person with time, you’ll be able to determine whether or not you feel safe with them.
5) Don’t forget to have fun!
Everyone is a little nervous when it comes to online dating! Sure, you’ll be sent cheesy pick up lines. But hopefully you’ll be able to laugh at an awkward situation. And trust me, you’ll have enough funny stories to last a lifetime.
I hope this was helpful! Let me know if these tips work for you, and any suggestions you might have!
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